Have you ever read a sign wrong and liked it better that way? Our family went “rustic camping” a couple of weeks ago, and we passed a notice by the road that said “You are responsible for your refuse”. This usually means, “Hey, pick up your trash, kid.” but I saw “refuse” for its literal meaning – to be unwilling to do something.
My gears started to shift.
Things happen in life. Whether it’s an opportunity that comes my way or a problem that blocks my path, no one can force me to change. But if I choose not to grow, take risks, and make the next move forward (however scary) then I need to take responsibility for my choice.
I am responsible for my refuse.
Most of the time, I don’t think we realize when we are refusing to change. For me, sometimes I get into a routine that works, and I think I’m all set. After all, if someone isn’t inviting you to jump into a cold lake, are you really refusing to go?
Of course, there are times when refusing to do something is a good thing. Not every opportunity can or should be taken. But I have refused so many good things in life.
I have refused to believe. Refused to put the work in. Refused to give someone a chance.
Those devastating refusals are on no one else besides me. But I don’t have to stay in a state of quiet or constant refusal. And if I am responsible for my refuse, then that means I also have the ability to change it. The transformation could be amazing, if I refuse to doubt.
You are responsible for your refuse. The question is: What are you going to do with it?
Until next time,
Invent your story
This question was posted on #PBParty today: What are 3 things every picture book writer should know? I am writing the long version of my answer today, because this is something I am passionate about. Writers have a responsibility to our readers. There are a lot of wonderful resources out there to help you develop your voice, use writing techniques, and improve your craft. But it falls short of the goal without these three components.
Number 1: Know Who You’re Writing To
More than that, don’t underestimate who you’re writing to. Picture book writers don’t just write stories for children. They write stories for everyone. The creative license is off the charts with children’s books, and it’s easy to get lost in marshmallow fluff and lose substance.
Even if the reader is 3-6 months old and likes to eat a book as much as look at it. That kid is smart. And as pieces come together, authors owe it to their audience to make pages come to life.
Number 2: Know Why You are Writing
This isn’t a question you have to ask at the beginning – but you definitely need to know the answer inside out before you submit your work for publication. What moved you to write what you did? Why did you push through?
Write about the thing that is important to you. You need a compass to complete a writing work. “Why” is a great compass.
Number 3: Know How Will it Benefit the Child/Reader
Say your answer to “why” was “because I like puppies.” I like puppies too. I’ve written about my puppy, and I had a ball doing it. But when you write about puppies, and consider thinking deeper.
Hear me out on this. We can all celebrate puppies – I’m on board. As a writer though, don’t forget you have a rare opportunity to inspire, teach, and build up brilliant young minds. Seize that opportunity.
Let them read your last page ready for more in life.
Invent your story.